When it comes to physical fitness, I’ve had it covered. But in recent months it’s really hit me that my fitness in the arenas of emotional, intellectual and spiritual were lacking. I’ve always known, and preached, that health was holistic but I myself had lost my way. I’d been suffering from a general malaise of dissatisfaction. Part of it, undoubtably, was due to my separation and pending divorce from my partner of 12 years. Another part was wholly me and my own frustration at my being. I felt within me a desire to do so much more than I was. I had lots of free time to do worth things, but somehow I just couldn’t bring myself to do what needed to be done. I was kinda just hating myself.
The issues at hand were the following:
Bad time management
Debt and poor money management skills
The feeling of being stagnant and not creating, building or moving forward
I was feeling down, dumpy and there were days when I thought (now don’t worry about this over-dramatic statement, I was never in that bad a way) when I thought how sweet and peaceful death must be. I did constantly remind myself to be grateful for all the things I do have. I am indeed very lucky. But still….. I needed more.
I need to get real. I needed to change course and I needed a spark for that change. Here’s what I did:
I started to read again. I’ve long been an avid reader but more so of the fiction and literature kind. A couple of weeks ago I went onto amazon and bought the following “self-improvement” books:
Linchpin by Seth Godin. I’ve dabbled in a little Godin before and I always liked what he had to say. But it wasn’t until I heard him on the Tim Ferris show but his whole being hooked me. I haven’t read this book yet but I know it’s going to be great.
Godin on the Tim Ferris show recommended the following book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. Again, I haven’t read yet but the reviews are amazing. I had previously read Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin. In that book I learnt about the power of habits. In a nutshell, when something is a habit, like, say, brushing your teeth before bed it becomes an automatic action that you don’t have to think about. The choice to do it or not is taken away. It’s thought will is limited and can be exhausted, so simply take will and choice away. I need to make blogging a habit and not a choice I give myself.
And because I suck at money and always seem to living paycheck to paycheck I bough How to Manage Your Money When You Don’t Have Any by Erik Wecks. I’m only a quarter of the way through it, but already my thinking about money is changing.
I also started creating again. I’ve come to realise that I’m happiest when I’m creating things: be it silly social media posts, blog posts, workout videos, doing photo shoots and writing. Ah, writing. I think I have the balls now to call myself a writer. My ex was a writer of some repute and endowed that profession with mystical proportions — though these days he hardly does any of it. I love writing. Aside from my public writing, like here, I’ve started a little private project that has nothing to do with fitness and it’s bringing me so much joy.
I’m also working and writing a new fitness project that I am so excited about!!! A true passion project. Stay tuned.
But probably, the best thing I’ve done is stopped listening to Hip Hop while I worked out. I’d honestly tired of most Hip Hop but it was a habit — an automatic reaction. Workout = Hip Hop. I thought about it, I typically worked out an hour a day, 6 days a week. So, that’s 6 hours a week of “cash, money, hoes”. I knew there had to be a better use of that time. I started listening to Tim Ferris’s podcast in earnest. I love that show. But then someone on my Instagram suggested I also listen to Lewis Howes School of Greatness podcast. Loving it. Exactly what the doctor order. I follow the guy on SnapChat and it was his birthday today. He said what he wanted for this birthday was for his followers to buy his book. So I did. It’s arriving in the mail in 3 to 5 days.
Both Tim Ferris and Lewis Howes strongly encourage and swear by meditation. I have such a knee-jerk reaction to not wanting to meditate. I’ve tried it before, even taken a course, and I just got bored and fell asleep. But I know, it’s the next habit I need to take on.
So that, my friends, in a nutshell is how I climbed out of my little hole of woe is me. As I write this, I am filled with drive, enthusium and joy. Let’s do this shit.
I am so open to any suggestions you might have be it books, tricks or tips. What has helped you?